The Third Talk

“There are 27,000,000 porn videos viewed by 7-14 year old kids in the United States every single day. That works out to be about 320 per second. How long did it take you to read this far?"

- John Van Arnam, Founder, The Third Talk

The Third Talk Foundation Inc. is a 501(c)3 non-profit, non-partisan, non-denominational education platform.

"Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it."

— Proverb 22:6

"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men."

— Frederick Douglass

Boys as young as 7 years old view online porn. The average age of first exposure in the United States is 11. Viewing this extreme type of content, in that volume, at that age can have immediate and long lasting effects on the brain development of young men. Pornography content can physically alter the brain chemistry and make up in the developing brain. This can manifest itself in shame, fear, and anxiety. In extreme doses, it can contribute to anger, aggression, depression, lack of interest in other people, loneliness, seeing people as objects and assaults. We do not provide our boys an alternative message to the content they view, and simply allow them to gain their sexual education from pornography. Some boys view this content in numbers as high as 50 videos per week. By doing so boys give up their own individuality and instead just follow what the porn industry dictates that they should see. This can rob a young Man of his own interests, and increase the resentment anger and loneliness he may already be experiencing.
The obvious and most important problem for girls, is that aggressive, porn-sex soaked boys may see these young girls as objects and physically assault them; trained by pornography and lacking the compassion or even comprehension to understand that these girls are actually young people. Girls may acquiesce to behaviors that may not feel appropriate to them, however peer pressure from older students encourages this behavior. This pressure comes from last year's porn-soaked environment 'survivors', peer pressure and boys. This behavior does not come from a place of mutual respect, trust, communication and love. Girls are on the front lines of having to manage the environment of these damaged* (my word) boys. Additionally girls will watch porn to understand what boys "want", and by doing so give up their own idea of sexuality or physical engagement. This can lead to habitual resentment, anger and a break-down of any future long term relationships. Girls endure assault, shaming, and rape as early as 7th and 8th grade. We as a parental demographic simply must do better.
If you are a neighborhood watch group, church youth group administrator, PTO, or book club, we want to hear from you. If you are a School Superintendent, Administrator, Teacher or Counselor, even better. It is our intention to work with as many organizations as possible to socialize for parents the sheer volume of the challenge and the communication based solution. This is a difficult topic. As such it is not being discussed by parents, schools, churches, the DOE, DOJ, DHHS, or the porn industry.Please join me to stop this lack of communication.
There are 27,000,000 porn videos viewed by 7-14 year olds in the United States every day. There are 23,000,000 boys and girls in the United States in that age group. Estimates for boys consumption of online pornography range as high as 50 videos viewed every week in 2011. Parents are unaware of this volume for the most part, and in denial about their child's exposure. Some parents will have a talk to their kids about pornography in high school, which is statistically far too late to prevent exposure, and the damage this can do to the developing brain.
The Third Talk is here to provide parents, and the public, information unique to The Third Talk. It is the history, knowledge, experience and the 'eye-witnessing' of campaign after campaign to curb this content's availability fail, that was the catalyst to the creation of The Third Talk Foundation Inc. The Third Talk has been an activist and advocate of protecting children from inadvertently viewing pornography content for over 16 years. We take a very different approach when discussing this with kids and grown ups. The Third Talk Foundation Inc., uses real world information, and takes into consideration the age and developmental level of its audience, as instruction on how and why to avoid the content is provided. We also offer 1-on-1 communication with Parents on how to initiate this conversation and how to successfully keep that conversation going with their child or children.

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I have worked with John Van Arnam on many large PPC traffic campaigns and have found him a knowledgeable resource and valuable partner. I look forward to working on future campaigns with John and believe that his knowledge of our system and products to be a value to me as well as his clients.
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I knew John Van Arnam planning Microsoft’s Adcenter Ad release, and found that John has a profound knowledge of the on-line ad vertical. John is a straight talker and keen on the goals, he is personable and easy to work with. AdCenter’s product team benefits from John’s insights tremendously, and we look forward to continuing our work, with John’s input in future releases.
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John has proven himself a valuable resource to the media division of Google’s North American operations. His professionalism and courtesy dominated his work here and we recommend his services highly.