Over 14.5 billion explicit adult videos are viewed by 7–17-year-olds in the United States every year. Our young people represent one of the largest pornography viewing demographics in the world.

Parents are unaware or in denial about their own young person's exposure. We know that 93% of boys and 68% of girls see this content before they leave high school. Even if your child beats those odds, most of their peers will have viewed this content. Teen culture is saturated with pornography's ideas and standards.

The conversation has been awkward for parents and therefore mostly ignored. This is not dad's PlayboyExplicit online adult videos are dangerous for young people.

Exposure To Explicit Adult Videos

Challenges For Boys - Explicit Adult Videos

Challenges for Boys

A 2011 estimate of 14–17-year-old boys’ consumption of explicit adult videos in the United States was over 50 videos per week on average. Viewing such an extraordinary volume of explicit adult material at that early an age can have immediate and long-lasting effects on brain development. This can manifest in boys in shame, fear, and anxiety. In extreme doses, it can contribute to anger, aggression, depression, a lack of interest in other people, loneliness, objectification and assault.

Boys as young as 7 and 8 years old report viewing explicit adult material. In the United States, the average age of exposure to explicit videos is about age 11.

The real challenge for boys’ viewing this content regularly is that many believe it to be representative of real life. These boys see such graphic content as an actual guide on how to engage in sexual relations with others. The danger rises when we do not provide boys with an alternative message to the content they view and instead allow them to gain their sex education from explicit adult videos online. This can rob a boy of his individual interests and may increase the resentment, anger, frustration, or loneliness he could be already  experiencing as an adolescent.

Challenges for Girls

Girls may view this content with a natural curiosity to gain maturity. They can be negatively affected emotionally by comparing themselves unfavorably with porn stars or trying to live up to that image.

Girls may watch explicit adult videos to try to understand what a potential partner wants, but this only serves to trample over her own ideas about sexuality. Girls endure body shamingslut shamingprude shaming, and sex shaming as early as 11 years old and can be targeted on social media. The idea of "sexuality as currency" is unhealthy for our girls. Don't take our word for it, just look at Only Fans.

Another challenge for girls is that aggressive “porn-sex”-soaked boys can see girls as sex objects. Moreover, girls can face an accelerated idea of what initial physical contact should or could be like for them. This can include sexual violence at the hands of a partner.

Challenges For Girls - Explicit Adult Videos

The Third Talk To Inform Parents


The Third Talk™ is here to provide parents with information and language to initiate pornography prevention conversations with their young people. We provide practical real-world language to start that talk as well as the “how and why” to keep the conversation going through adolescence.

All other methods of trying to curb this content's availability to our young people (political, legislative, technical, religious, filters etc.) have proven ineffective for 20 years as the number simply continue to go up; doubling in 2020.

It is communication between parents and young people that will overcome this challenge. We take a direct and purposeful approach at The Third Talk™. We do not shame, blame, or use colorful language. We talk about the world our kids live in, not the world we wished they live in. Grown ups created this environment and grown ups need to change it.  Please help us change it.