The Third Talk

Dr. Olson Huff

"John Van Arnam is a friend and a colleague. He has spearheaded a very important effort to protect children from pornography. Early exposure to this content has several negative effects for children early in their development and later in their lives. I have watched as John has unflinchingly advocated for parents, teachers and all grown-ups to enter into thoughtful communication with their children, pupils and charges. John is a kind person, who genuinely cares about kids and is offering an unprecedented and important solution to a challenge that affects every parent and every child in Buncombe County, North Carolina and the United States."


Kelley Johnson, PhD

“I support John Van Arnam and his program called The Third Talk™. It is a smart and compelling approach to address a challenge that affects all middle schoolers and high schoolers in buncombe county. Online pornography is more prevalent than most people understand, and exposure can have lasting negative effects on the mind and behavior of students, especially boys. I have known John for many years, I have worked with him on other projects, and want to recommend his services highly. I encourage John’s approach, and his courage to address a topic that can be a challenge for parents to initiate with their kids. John removes that challenge and awkwardness in one session. I recommend his services and would encourage parents to contact him to address this aspect of their children growing up in advance of exposure to this content. It’s never too late to address online pornography with your children. Just know that there are people here to help you.”


Karen Fairly, North Carolina Center for Safer Schools

"I have met and worked with John on the training we provide at our R.I.S.E seminar series here in North Carolina. He is addressing a difficult and prolific problem in our State and around the country. I know him to be thoughtful, careful, professional and even funny. His lectures at our trainings routinely receive the highest marks from the participating SRO’s, Administrators and counselors and we look forward to his upcoming teachings this summer 2018. He has opened my eyes to a challenge in our country for our young people that I was not fully aware of, and solving it with grace and care. I recommend John’s approach to online pornography and the harm it can cause our young children."


Ping Jen, Bing

"I have worked with John Van Arnam on many large PPC traffic campaigns and have found him a knowledgeable resource and valuable partner. I look forward to working on future campaigns with John and believe that his knowledge of our system and products to be a value to me as well as his clients.

I knew John Van Arnam planning Microsoft’s Adcenter Ad release, and found that John has a profound knowledge of the on-line ad vertical. John is a straight talker and keen on the goals, he is personable and easy to work with. AdCenter’s product team benefits from John’s insights tremendously, and we look forward to continuing our work, with John’s input in future releases."

Matthew Hubbard, Google

"John has proven himself a valuable resource to the media division of Google’s North American operations. His professionalism and courtesy dominated his work here and we recommend his services highly."


Chad Hinds, Yahoo

"I have worked with John Van Arnam on many large PPC traffic campaigns and have found him a knowledgeable resource and valuable partner. I look forward to working on future campaigns with John and believe that his knowledge of our system and products to be a value to me as well as his clients."


Dave K. – Black Mountain

"I don’t know of anyone or have heard of anyone that has more knowledge about kids avoiding porn than John. That’s not why I wanted him to talk to my boys. I wanted him to talk with my boys because he has a calm easy manner about him that allows for open communication. I am pretty confident that I couldn’t answer the questions he did."


Matt S. – Black Mountain

"I know I wasn’t having this talk with my two sons. They told me some things, but I never knew how much of this content was available to them. I know filters don’t work. I didn’t have a real plan. We do now."


Melissa K. – Black Mountain

"I want my sons to have a fun respectful meaningful sex life. Online porn is not that, it’s the opposite. I wasn’t 100% sure what we were going to do to address it. But Coach John sure did! It was amazing what he was able to share with my boys and make them feel at ease. That is a conversation that we now have regularly in our home, and before it just wasn’t spoken of. We talk about safety now that is a part of it. I recommend his services highly!"


Joyce S. – Black Mountain

“Call him. Make yourself feel better! We all know porn is out there, but what to do about it? I sure didn’t know, but (John) did! I feel better now. I didn’t expect that part.”