The Third Talk

Parent and Child Consultation

The communication between children and their parents is the best way to assure that children are not exposed to online adult content. Prevention is the goal. The ‘cure’ might be diminished happiness, loneliness or difficulties initiating or maintaining long term, healthy relationships. It might even mean years of therapy; or simply the ‘fast-forwarding’ through a wonderful and rare opportunity to be young and explore your own individual sexual personality slowly.

A conversation with any child requires a parent to be present. In addition, a 15-minute discussion will be had with the parent(s) before sitting down as a group.... Read More

Parent Only Consultation

Parents have “The Talk” to teach their kids about the birds and the bees. A second talk regarding sexual development happens around middle school and is usually given by counselors, health teachers, or P.E. teachers to discuss safety, boundaries, pregnancy and STDs. Now that technology allows adult content to exist on every device and social media platform our children will see, parents need to have another talk. The Third Talk™, parents need to have with their kids, is about online adult content.

By focusing on the parent, and their responsibility to educate and protect their own children there is a theme that can be universally accepted. It moves the conversation from the internet, to the home, and allows for families and communities to support each other. This means discussions at work, at the soccer field, at book clubs, baseball games.... Read More

Followup Consultation


During this 60-minute follow up session we will address challenges Parents have discovered in their communication, role play Parent / Child interaction, develop individual techniques for families and an opportunity to include a child or children in the process.


  • Identify the communication challenges for parents
  • Role play the child / parent communication

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The difficulty of speaking to children regarding the challenges of adult content has been completely mitigated by our insightful education series delivered by our founder John Van Arnam. John combines real world solutions with knowledgeable and family-friendly anecdotes in order to provide children and their parents an actual remedy to adult content’s potential hazards. This conversation, “the ‘porn’ talk”, has proven difficult to the point of prohibitive for most grown-ups; except for the usual and overly simple “Don’t watch it”, that kids have ignored for 18 years... Read More