Download the Instructor's Guide, plug in the Discussion Slides, and provide your students with the Participant Guide. Empower your students with the tools necessary to address explicit adult content, sexual assault and Human Trafficking in your school.
The Third Talk™ Education Bundle is a comprehensive, step-by-step guide for teachers, counselors and administrators to identify, address and educate students on how to avoid exposure to adult content in their school and student body.
You might think that this can wait until next week, or next semester or next year; it really can’t.
Your students, teachers, counselors and organizational team members cannot wait any longer. The hurt is real, well documented and ubiquitous across every social media platform, gaming console, handheld device, and family computer your students will use. Even school computers. The sooner we address this subject, the better for our entire school community.
The Third talk™ will offer scholarships and price reductions to any School, County or District that requests a scholarship. Please contact The Third Talk™ by going to the scholarship form above and filling out your school's information. One of our representatives will reach out to you directly to determine your school's cost based on the size of school, Tier of County and needs of the community. The Third Talk™ wants every child to have this information and we will do whatever it takes to make that happen.
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Our students and teachers deserve our bravery on this topic.
Our schools have our young people for 6 sometimes 7 hours a day, and are in the most advantageous position to address this health challenge for all our students. Because students are together the opportunity exists to address this challenge as a class or as a grade each year, and begin to dismantle the secretive and loneliness associated with addressing this challenge as an individual. To change culture for our young people we must begin now, early and often, in order to dispel the myth of explicit adult material as sex-education. We have to support our teachers while they strive to keep our students safe; no matter what subject they are addressing.
Online pornography is a real challenge for our young people.
This content can cause fear, aggression, depression, and loneliness. It can exacerbate challenges that our young people are already experiencing in school. We have seen a dramatic rise in Internet crimes against children during the Covid-19 pandemic because of the increase in screen time for young people. Those rates were not “low” before the pandemic. The hurt to the adolescent brain is well-documented, and the recovery from those challenges are lengthy and expensive. We have allowed fear, shame, and misinformation to dominate our young people's innocent entrance into an incredibly important part of their personalities, a part of their personalities that will be important to them for most of their life. Let's stand up together as a community and face down this challenge, for our student's health and safety.
The Third Talk™ Founder, SME BA
The strategy is well known and yet, remains to be implemented.
“The correlation between education level and sexual health outcomes has been well documented. One of the most effective ways to improve sexual health in the long-term is a commitment to ensuring that adolescents and young people are sufficiently educated to make healthy decisions about their sexual lives. Accurate, evidence-based, appropriate sexual health information and counselling should be available to all young people, and should be free of discrimination, gender bias and stigma. Such education can be provided via schools, workplaces, health providers and community and religious leaders.” World Health Organization 2018.
Please visit our resource page to read how the CDC, AASECT, DHHS and others confirm this important consideration.
We understand everyone may not be familiar with this subject, but this content affects every young person in middle and high school, regardless of their grade, race, religion, gender, socio-economic position, or romantic interest. It affects them socially and emotionally, even if they aren’t the one that views it.
We have to make it acceptable to speak with our young people about explicit adult material online;
if we can do that in our schools Nationally...
our students win.
Let's all win together!
What counselors and the educators
are saying about
The Third Talk™...
“John is addressing a difficult and prolific problem in our State and around the country. I know him to be thoughtful, careful, professional and even funny. His lectures at our trainings routinely receive the highest marks from the participating Administrators, counselors and teachers, and we look forward to his upcoming teachings... He has opened my eyes to a challenge in our State for young people that I was not fully aware of, and solving it with grace and care. I recommend John’s approach to online pornography-prevention for all our young people.”
North Carolina Center for Safer Schools
“I support John Van Arnam and his program called The Third Talk™. It is a smart and compelling approach to address a challenge that affects all middle schoolers and high schoolers. Online pornography is more prevalent than most people understand, and exposure can have lasting negative effects on the mind and behavior of students, especially boys. I have known John for many years, I have worked with him on other projects, and I recommend his services highly. I encourage John’s approach.”
Kelly Johnson, PhD
Clinical Sexologist & Sex Educator
“After years of work as sex therapist here in North Carolina I am proud to endorse John Van Arnam and The Third Talk™. His approach to the prevention of sexually based challenges for our State's youth is exemplary. It takes tremendous courage for John to lend his name and experience to a topic as controversial as exposure of online pornography to young people. We as adults simply must do a better job of forewarning our children against their inevitable exposure to pornography and John’s program does just that. John is focused on prevention. I encourage you to contact John and protect your family from the damage that this content can cause young children.”
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
“I have had the pleasure of working with John Van Arnam on the Male Engagement Committee of the North Carolina State PTA. John’s delivery is so straight forward and easy to hear that you quickly move past any “awkward” nature of the topic itself and move quickly and effortlessly to his solution; which is also very straight-forward and easily understood. I am not 100% sure how he does it, but I am very glad he does. I give John my highest recommendation as a speaker, and as a prevention professional. Our state needs more people like John to simply roll up his sleeves and tackle a difficult discussion with grace, care and humor.”
Dr. Leroy Wray
Director of Teacher Recruitment and Retention UNCA
Lecture Professor at several UNC Universities
“John and his team provided an informative approach to a difficult topic. John was a compelling speaker for our students, keeping them engaged while providing them with well-researched facts."
Dean of Students
French Broad River Academy
“With The Third Talk, John seeks to address fear, ignorance, and taboo with humor, compassion, and understandning. John's program is both thought-provoking and crucial. Our students' parents were shocked, entertained, and called to action.”
LPCA School Counselor
High Scool Franklin School of Innovation
“As a 25-year K-12 educator, I fully endorse The Third Talk and John Van Arnam’s work on unfettered access to pornography and inappropriate internet content. John’s dogged focus on pornography/inappropriate internet content as the “root cause” of most of the social challenges of our middle and high school students is so very important to everyone who works on raising our youth, parents, educators and clergy alike. I am very excited about doing everything I can to make sure that as many schools, students, parents and educators as possible across the country have the tools, training, and assistance they need to do this work, and offering them The Third Talk™ is the way to do that!"
Director of Special Projects
State and Federal Programs
“We appreciate you coming and sharing your expertise with us. Your presentation was well received by parents and students. It was shared in a non-judgemental way and provided parents with tools needed to help support their children. Parents appeared to be appreciative of learning more about a topic that is often taboo. I left the presentation feeling hopeful that parents would start having conversations with their children at home about Pornography around the dangers and risks to watching online pornography. I am thankful for you and the work you are doing. I hope that your message continues to be heard by parents in our local community and across the country.”
LCSW Middle School Counselor
Franklin School of Innovation
“My cousin tried to show me pornography on his computer while our parents weren’t around, and I knew I wasn’t supposed to see that. I was embarrassed to talk to my Mom, so I didn’t say anything. Mr. Van Arnam came to my school and said it’s okay to talk about it with my Mom and Dad. I finally was able to say something without them getting mad at me.”
This is a story from a 12 year-old girl.
I hear them all of the time at our events. Believe it or not these experiences are surprisingly common.
The reality is underage American children view 460 explicit adult videos every second of every day. As teachers, counselors, and parents, we can and MUST do better to curb exposure. That will mean supporting our teachers, counselors, educators and parents as we all strive to rid our young people of this damaging exposure.