The Third Talk

This is not an open forum, and we do not allow comment. This page is an anonymous showing of some of the comments we have received from young Women, and young girls of all ages, regarding pornography, and its effect on them and its effect on the boys they date, engage with and love. There is some real language as we did not and do not censor these comments. This is an information section only. Any comment made to any post on this page will be by a member of The Third Talk, who will be identified and claim the comment.






"I’m a freshmen. I didn't expect poems and flowers every day, but sending me a text saying 'show me your tits' was not how I expected to be 'asked out' by a boy."

"When we go to parties, we profile everyone. 'Those are the burn-outs, those are the goths, those are the rapists, those are the jocks, those are the nerds.' Yes, we know who the rapists are!"

"Why does a boy think he deserves my body? Its mine. His is his, mine is mine, how is that so hard to understand? We should share our bodies together only IF we want to."

"I know that a boy reading this will say she’s 'lame' or 'a cold bitch'. I’m a cheerleader in my junior year, I know that I'm pretty, and I definitely like boys. I had a boyfriend who tried to rape me. I didn’t say anything. And I don’t date boys anymore."

"Porn makes boys think they're something that they’re not. They are insecure and watch porn because they aren’t brave enough to talk to real girls. Girls are more than just sex. We want sex too, but we want it to feel like they’re into us, not just a porn version of us. Why do they really not get that?"

"What are boys going to do when they go to college, or want to get married?"

"Girls don’t like 'porn sex'. I mean some do I guess, but if they expect that every day, or on the first date, they're going to be disappointed. Then they’ll cheat, and maybe divorce. It’s like eating dessert for every meal."

"I think boys think that girls want to be porn stars or sluts. It’s so much sexier to be into it than 'perform' it. I feel like we're both just focused on his pleasure and that is boring, lame and makes me want to run!"

"I don’t deal with boys. I don’t text them, I don’t go to parties, I’m sure I’m not going to prom. I’m not a prude, I want to explore sex, but there is no exploration today. You’re either in for it all, or your 'out'."